Videos about psychology, China

Born billionaires - how to use our heartbeats wisely (don't miss it)

With Mo Gawdat and Rangan Chatterjee ...

Live more - thoughts (psychology / philosophy) - don't miss it

With Rangan Chatterjee ... With Alan Watts ...

How to handle a narcissist

Happiness versus pleasure

One can see this distinction in the wider society too - East vs. West; cultures with different foundations - long term (family, infrastructure, community, the arts) versus short term (hype, sex, gossip, war). Mature versus immature. We versus me. The immature mind thinks 'me'; the mature mind understands that life is really about 'we'. Maturity is when one grows beyond the narcissism phase *. 'I' am just a small part of a bigger 'I' - humanity. With Dr. Robert Lustig ... One is controlled when one believes what one has been told (sold). Freedom is removing these mind chains and seeing reality. ----- * (footnote) At BB, we think that narcissism is a development phase that most transition out of; but some stay there and it can become exaggerated. The traditional views might also be true; likely, there is an interplay involved. ----- ----- Aside #1 : Q : Why does BB have so much content about health - nutrition and mental well-being ? A : Because it is fundamental to everything else; one cannot see the beauty of life if one's mind is mixed up; one cannot live life to the full if one is ill. ----- ----- Aside #2 : Confucius : One can grow from everybody one meets. On life's journey, one will meet wise people - learn from them; one will also meet foolish people - look deep within to see if one also has these follies.

Stress and health (don't miss this)

With doctors Mark Hyman and Rangan Chatterjee. Of all the four pillars of health - diet, exercise, sleep and relaxation - the last is often the hardest to improve. Mindfulness, mindset, and the importance of 'downtime' and 'digital detox' ... And always take time to appreciate what you have, above worrying about what you don't have. Bonus film - the BIG epidemic that is ignored; chronic disease and the 'healthcare' system - don't miss it ...

Something different - more about narcissism (psychology)

At root, narcissism ('life is all about me') is self-loathing projected onto someone else (the scapegoat, who might be driven to death - through illness, madness, suicide; let's call it what it is - emotional torture; in contrast, all others are shown a completely opposite, OTT, 'lovely' persona; and many will be deceived by this). Narcissism is very destructive; and not often recognized. This is not a rare thing; it could well be 1 in 5 people. Don't miss this; Dr. Ramani is awesome. Ramani Durvasula in conversation with Lewis Howes ... Narcissistic fathers and the damage they do to their children ... Narcissistic mothers and the damage they do to their children ... Narcissism and society ... On how a narcissist will try to destroy you ... Is your depression a symptom of being in a narcissistic relationship? Relationships need some work, including self-reflection; but they shouldn't be hard work - that's a sign it might never work out; if one feels a need to be treading on egg shells, that's confirmation it is doomed. Real relationships are based on mutual respect, flexibility and compassion (unconditional love - no ifs or buts)*; narcissists have none of these attributes. In a time of stress, does the other stay positive and chip in, or start a blame game? Things like this are the signs to look out for. Does the other help you reach your dreams, or belittle you ? Are they present in the moment or in their own little bubble ? A narcissist can't stand your success or happiness. Psychopathologies are all about distortions between reality and self, between inner self and behavior. When there is the absence of such distortions - masks, projections, defense mechanisms, etc., there is authenticity. That's going from acting, to really living. * without needing that person, or allowing oneself to be walked upon. One must be at least somewhat authentic / love oneself first; not trying to complete oneself, etc.

More about narcissism

Something different - minimalism (less is more)

With Einzelgänger ... Bonus film - Erich Fromm on 'To Have or To Be' ...

The art of effortless living

With Jason Gregory. Wu wei and the Dao (Tao) ... Bonus film - with Alan Watts ...

Something different - on humans and the pale blue dot (Earth)

With Lemino ...

Something different - on being single

"If you feel lonely when alone, you are in bad company" - Jean-Paul Sartre The meaning of life, is what you choose it to be - Albert Camus

Narcissists, psychopaths and other toxic people

A first step in getting out of a trapped life, to a real life, is to become free of toxic people. Nobody is perfect; but most people know, to some extent, their faults, feel empathy and try to be better. But some people cannot see their faults, lack empathy and are always 'right' - the most important thing to know is that they cannot be 'fixed', understood, or healed by you (only a highly skilled psychotherapist stands a chance, and that's partly because there is no life relationship). If you cannot (yet) get away, at least become aware that it is not your problem. One can sense some similarities in dynamics with geo-politics. A variety of voices on this topic - in no particular order (may need multiple viewings because it can take time to understand more than superficially) ...

How thoughts make you unhappy

While thought can be a great tool, one can be controlled by ones thoughts rather than the reverse; that is, a slave to one's past experiences and how that projects into the future like a railway track. To be endlessly controlled by the past, and the past's plans for the future, is to die without having really lived. How to calm the noise in your mind. With Eckhart Tolle ...

How to live a true life (psychology)

Dr Rangan Chatterjee talks with Jay Shetty ...

To live, you must first die (psychology / philosophy)

To be free, is to be off the time-lapse trajectory of the past into the future. This means to stop rationalizing and die to the past - only then one can truly live in the present moment. The past is still the past, but one is no longer its hostage. What stands in the way of a true life is - you - that is, the past, that one thinks of as 'me' (a mush of programming and fantasies - the noise that precludes clarity). The truth is simple; but it is not easy. One must be aware of one's thoughts and see them not as you but as relics; to see these thoughts as what they really are and not be ruled by them. The first, and crucial, step is to see how one has been hijacked by the past. To be free, is to be free of the past. Truth is not about believing, or 'knowing', a bunch of concepts; truth is being real. At BB, we can recommend Alan Watts, Jiddu Krishnamurti and Gabor Mate as sincere and wise voices to explore this more; though there are many others, these are straight talkers (some of their talks are featured here). The thing is - the guide is not the truth, it is only a guide; never trust in or believe a guide as though it is the truth - either you simply believe this or that, or you are true. Don't be an addict - to a belief. Don't be an addict to your past and ego. 10,000 years and 100,000 books of philosophy distilled into a few sentences. Once out of the prison of the past, everything else becomes clear. Kyle Cease talks with Tom Bilyeu ... Bonus film - with Jiddu Krishnamurti ... Bonus film 2 - with Alan Watts ...

A new start, a new you

Jiddu Krishnamurti ... LiZiQi ... Alan Watts ... Gabor Mate ...

On the difference between observing and thinking (philosophy / psychology)

Truth lies in being able to see 'what is', without preconception. No what 'I already know' or what 'should be'. First, must come clear sight of that what is (the solution always lies within the question). Is one a figment of the past, and conditioning, or really alive in the present moment? Half blind or of clear sight ? With Jiddu Krishnamurti ... Bonus film - with Alan Watts - on Being There, rather than merely Passing By ...

How we become who we are (psychology)

Breaking free of the past to live a life beyond merely surviving. With Gabor Mate and Tom Bilyeu ...

Life Wisdom - Jason Silva (psychology)

Unconditional love, trauma, flow (being in the moment), the ego, and more ...

Life Wisdom - Jim Kwik (psychology)

Overcoming false limits ...

To be free of the past that rules our world - when we see what is rather than think of what should be

Childhood trauma, and the art of parenting - and much more - with Gabor Mate (don't miss it) ... More - on society ... The root attachment / addiction is to the idea of oneself as separate; self-perpetuating, including literally. Some might call this 'hell'.

The Real Revolution - starts with us - Jiddu Krishnamurti (sociology, psychology, philosophy)

Filmed in 1966.